Although our circumstances are a bit different I feel your pain. It’s not an easy story to share. Because people who don’t know us very well will either think that a) we must be terrible mothers or b) our daughter(s) must be cruel. Neither is true. So a lot of times it’s easier to say nothing. And you are right, it is so hard when people want to help by constantly bringing up the subject or when they want to say a few well-meaning words to help you cope.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I know it must have been very difficult to write this piece. Here is mine just to let you know you are not alone.