Great piece. It’s not about trying to sort people out into good versus bad bins. It’s about observing to see how well values match. And it’s about believing what you see. So often we make excuses for behaviors when we shouldn’t. See what is. Not what you wish for. By seeing what is you are doing the other person a favor. Just think about it, he or she doesn’t have to try to change for you.


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