In Sweden, this is called being sarbo. I’m not exactly sure what the difference is between a LAT and a regular dating/committed relationship but Swedish women seem to like it. Especially older women who have been previously married. The caretaking aspects are minimized and the finances are separate. And maybe the problem of taking each other for granted is minimized as well. It’s like having the cake and eating it too but leaving the dishes behind.

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