Thank you for this piece Toby! I chose to do my master’s thesis in psychology on adult children looking back at parental divorce. (Here’s a quick summary of my findings. )When looking at the studies and interviews one can see that although the two first years after a parental divorce are tough, a large majority will adjust and be okay with time. And the toughest part to get through (and the one leaving the deepest scars)? Continued parental fighting long after the divorce papers are signed. Kids are harmed when placed in the middle, asked to take sides, and when they have to take on caretaking roles after their parents' divorce. The best gift you can give a child going through a divorce is the gift of getting along with your ex and not using your children as pawns. It sure seems like you managed to do this. Good for you.

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