What we need to develop is not resilience but instead, we need to learn when to be resilient and when not to. There are too many “I will never give up” people who are told they shouldn’t give up when they really should. Why? Because we read about the ones who made it after years of struggling and it is ingrained in the American psyche that the amount of struggling is proportionate to the rewards coming our way. Maybe resilience is knowing when to give up on one particular dream without giving up on dreaming itself? If we could learn when to move from one dream to the next, and if we could learn that failing is brave, then we might win the race against resilience (which, it seems to me, has replaced the positive thinking idea of yesterday).

M.S. Psychology| I write about life, relationships, things that make me laugh, cry, or all of the above in one piece. Reach me at annaismithwrites@gmail.com

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